8 months to fall in love, 1 week to fall out of it

It takes me a solid 8 months to fall in love, like the most real kind of falling in love, based on consistently meeting someone over time. Sure, I’ve “fallen in love” within less than a week, but that’s before really getting to know someone over time.

With Roy and Mike T, it took 8 months of unsure if I’d actually date them, but having consistent, punctual-ish meet-ups that allowed me to have time to feel and think through everything and decide I would date them. Both of them ended up not being ready to date. It took like 1 week to get over them because we were never dating in the first place. It takes much longer when I’m already dating someone to get over a breakup.

But that’s the dilemma.

Who’s gonna casually see you for 8 months only to later agree to be official? You are both casually seeing each other for a reason. Because that’s all you both want. It’s unlikely both of you will suddenly be like, yeah let’s commit to dating.

I’m so stupid for always doing the same thing… Right?

But the serious ones aren’t gonna just be in limbo for 8 months while I decide. FUCK.

I’m wondering, I should just do follow-ups every 3 months for “if you want to keep seeing each other” and at the 8 month mark have a DTR/decision time. Who the fuck is gonna be ok with that tho? That was smart of Wills to do that though, to have clear expectations. But gays aren’t gonna do that?!