He’s not even looking for the benefit of the doubt

It’s been almost 2 days of me processing an disagreement with Roy, and I’m starting to have a clearer idea of what I still am feeling stressed.

I feel like I let my guard down and was completely vulnerable with Roy, but he came at me without waiting or asking or confirming my intentions. Without a second chance. Without looking for the benefit of the doubt.

I’m always asking to confirm if he meant something or feels a certain way, but he is so quick to lash back and come at me when he assumes that he is right ABOUT ME.

Sure, I might respond in a curt way, but does that mean he is justified in coming at me back and being mean to me? No. I may be wrong in my tone, but the moment he decides to respond negatively, he is also wrong. And if the response has bad intention, that is a problem for me.