I still get triggered by memories of my ex — through others

By others, I mean in the context of others’ relationships, or in boyfriend candidates.

If people say things that remind me of red flags in relationships, especially in my last one, I’ll be really annoyed or turned off.

Does this mean I’m still not over my ex?

Am I hypersensitive to remembering him and triggers of him?

I think it’s okay to start dating, but I think these things will follow me forever as a post-traumatic response. Just more baggage for people our age.

We’ll all have to deal with it.

This is dating in your mid-30s, eh?