I’m convinced being attractive is the most important thing

My Secret Notebook
2 min readDec 12, 2024

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I just got back from cruising at a Korean spa, and I saw this beautiful guy from Marina (we talked a bit) with great skin and a adonis build. He didn’t really have abs since he had some fat (not bad at all), but he was muscular and boyish. He looked like Shawn Mendez. He was probably 6 foot.

I ended up briefly jerking him in the steam room. He was pretty elusive throughout the night.

My one agony is not asking for his name.

And that’s why I’m totally convinced that being hot is the number 1 most important thing. At least, most important for me to focus on. I already have a personality and intellectual interests lol. And I have money.

This beautiful guy was able to get me — and other people — to try to talk to him. And he got me agonizing over him.

We all know the whole country is precumming over Luigi Mangione. Attractiveness can forgive even murder.

I know it’s very shallow, but I think there is a lot of truth to it.

And when it comes to simplifying my life. I think I do just want to be around:

  1. Hot guys for sexual stuff
  2. Gaysians with similar interests for relatability, activities to enjoy together, and community
  3. Friends who put in effort for social life and community

Similar interests include:

  1. Blood on the Clocktower
  2. Pickleball
  3. Shows/movies/anime
  4. Trying new foods/exploring

But just need people who really put in effort into friendship. Those who invite me to things and are interested in being my friend. If I think they’re cool, I want to make sure I invite them to hangout too. Whether or not I have a group for them to join, I’ll at least invite them to dinner or something else. Need to think of funner things though.

So, all this planning and messaging takes up so much time, so I want to be more selective. And being hot is my fucking ticket to being selective.

The truth is, if I were not attractive enough (I at least have base attractiveness), I would not get invited to things as much, and I would not get as much attention.

And I AM ALSO shallow and mostly want to date or talk to hot guys.

It is essentially to drawing hot guys to me; and to not have them waver when it comes to wanting to sleep with me or date me. Then I can have more people to choose from.

Plan:

  1. Focus on gym/muscle gain/staying lean (abs)
  2. Diet strictly (be stricter about cheating, bring apple cider vinegar and guggul out)
  3. Sleep enough (1am bedtime, be strict)

Giving up:

  1. Messaging too much on insta
  2. Hanging out with people not of interest / expanding network

After achieving high physique:

  1. Photos
  2. Attend events (be selective on who choose to continue talking to, but be nice, just not as responsive)
  3. Continue prioritizing maintenance over sleeping/hanging out too late/partying. If you want hot guys, just hook up.
  4. Maybe even move to maximize dating prospects?

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My Secret Notebook
My Secret Notebook

Written by My Secret Notebook

Quirky, curious, and philosophical Asian American gay Ivy League grad living in Southern California.

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