I’m seeing an INTP guy (as an ENTP)

I met an INTP guy at a circle jerk on 8/12, and it’s been 1.5 months since then.

I thought he was cute, found him on IG shortly, asked him out to dinner, and it was considered a date.

His last relationship was open, and he is still considering if he is ready to date. But we have both said we like each other, and we are clear that we’re not exclusive, share about the other sex we have, and are each other’s main bitches.

We go on dates. And I generally enjoy spending time with him.

Things I like:

• Making out with him/cuddling with him
• His cute jawline and lips
• His thoughtfulness as an INTP
• His interest in certain more theoretical topics
• Good at teaching me out to play certain games
• His interest in spending more time with me and getting to know me
• The slight overlaps in our social spheres, which confirms some rapport
• His educational background
• His family-oriented background
• The effort he does put into things

What I don’t like:

• He’s not really that funny, expressive, and excitable. There’s some but not at my level.
• Socially, he often seems in his head and doesn’t prioritize making good impressions like with my friends
• He doesn’t seem to want to be open about us seeing each other
• He seems to be tending to his ex too much when we are both in the same social spaces
• He seems to make obvious mistakes (not telling me how late he’ll be, being out of it but not telling me why ahead of time, etc) and later apologizes
• He’s a bit chubbier, shorter, and darker. When I saw my former classmate and a celebrity together, I was so jealous the celebrity was with my hot classmate who is cute, tall, thin, handsome, and very hot.

After this past weekend and last nights discussion of him just not really being ready to be open about me with his friends and that he needs time to get into things, I find myself kind of losing interest. I want someone who is excited to be with me, and from whom I can feel that when we’re together privately and publicly.

I can give it more time, especially since we have no pressure or expectations. We are mutually interested and each others’ mains, but we are not exclusive, and we both have 3–4 week trips coming up not with each other.

I think about dating someone even hotter when I think about moving to LA. But I do think this INTP is a good day-to-day match. But I also want someone who is fun-loving and with whom I can enjoy adventures/jokes/other stuff with.

He’s definitely more wholesome and settle-down material, but can’t I find something like that in an even hotter guy’s body?

I know it’s so superficial, but I’m just being honest. I think liking making out, cuddling, and sex with him is already pretty good, so maybe it’s a bit asking too much.

I’m willing to give it more time.