Reflection of 2020 — Did I accomplish my goals? New 2021 Goals

  1. I finally launched my Youtube channel. This is a big one, probably one of my biggest leaps. It’s not a successful channel by any means, but to actually get it running and started is huge for me, and I feel so proud of it.
  2. I actually started self-portraits. The pandemic definitely stopped the progress because I can’t try on clothes to buy for shoots. Once we can try on clothes again, this may return, but I learned that I don’t care about an IG presence as much.
  3. Socially, I got closer to Patty and Lois, who were people I wanted to get closer to. I also developed my relationship with Danid in Taiwan over messaging.
  4. Beginning of the year, we got my friend’s wife pregnant. And baby was born! A big check off personal goal of progeny.
  1. At work, I completed a large case project. This is sort of an accomplishment, but I don’t put it as one, because it wasn’t really a personal goal I care about lol.
  2. Socially, I met Alvie, a Taiwanese anchor. I learned I’m attracted to power/influential people.
  3. I also had gotten “close” to Alvin, confessed, and then had him fade me out. It sucked.
  4. I refinanced a property, saving ~$190 in monthly payments.
  5. Watched a lot of isekai animes and shows/movies. Started tracking my watching.
  6. Sexually, I saw a sex party aftermath for the first time and was edged for the first time.
  1. Become hot: I actually achieved this lol. Well, I’m more of a twink hot, but my abs are the most defined they’ve ever been (still not very defined, but honestly, good enough for now).
  2. Grow a successful IG: Did not achieve this. Due to pandemic and lack of motivation. Learned I don’t really care about this, and I can just use pics for dating profile.
  3. Use IG for good: #2 was not achieved, so couldn’t do this.
  1. Create a boardgame for commercial sale.
  2. Plan a trip to Taiwan (and maybe Japan in the same trip).
  3. Increase “passive” income (more property, or something else).
  1. I want to be life partners with someone who is very good, kind, enjoyable to be around, and smart. I’m attracted to power, but honestly, this person doesn’t need to be powerful or influential.
  2. I want to build a family with children, but I recognize my lack of motivation and default settings for housekeeping and routine. This may be supplemented by a partner who is, friends who are, or hiring nannies.
  3. I want to be a charitable person. Someone who does/has done something significant that is charitable and helps people in need. I still don’t have a clear path to this yet.
  4. I want to be financially independent and have stables streams of income without having to work. This is me being lazy again, but it’s also my desire to free up time to spend with people I care about, and of course, to indulge in my pleasures. Lol that sounds so bad. :/ But the truth is, it’s for flexibility. Sometimes, I’ll want to relax and enjoy anime (aka pleasures). Other times I may want to test out ideas and projects. I would like this flexibility to do so.
  5. I want to build and maintain genuine friendships. People I like being around, and people who like me. Good people.
  6. I want to be someone with a voice. Maybe that’s my YouTube channel (maybe I reveal?). Or maybe it’s a different way that I become a voice for myself. But I want to be genuinely me and not pressured to say or be someone I’m not. I don’t want to be in the shadows forever though. I feel kind of trapped in my own little pandemic cage, and I can’t wait to be out again.
  1. Boardgames
  2. Personality theory
  3. Politics/general knowledge
  4. Anime, movies, shows
  1. Badminton
  2. Delicious foods, trying new foods
  3. Boys (sigh)
  4. Socializing, learning from people of different areas/cultures
  5. Traveling
  6. Writing
  7. Sketch comedy




Quirky, curious, and philosophical Asian American gay Ivy League grad living in Southern California.

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