Reliving the dating life again: it’s like a second chance at life!

After dating exclusively for 3 years, coming back to the dating world is like an isekai anime or like time travel.

I’m smarter and wiser, and I’m seeing the same kinds of scenarios as before. I’m way more prepared to face them, and I’m a totally different person now.

I’ve seen a fair share of ESFJs adn INTPs, so the ESFJ and INTP of interest now are following the exact molds. I can use a lot of what I’ve learned to take on these challenges.

During my exclusivity and COVID years, I looked back on all the fun dating stories of my past: seeing two guys at once and deciding who to date, not dating either of the guys, hooking up, etc. Now, I’m doing all that, but even more! I have more money, and I’m dating guys who are way more mature (and older than before albeit still younger than I am; both guys are 30, I’m 35).

I’m on PrEP and DoxyPEP, so I’m actually having bareback sex now, and I have more confidence and honesty. I’ve lived life, and I’ve kind of resurrected to come back for another final lap of 30s youth! It’s fucking amazing, and these are the stories of my life that I’ll cherish. I already know it.

So even though these situations could seem stressful or troublesome, I’m not stressed. I’m excited. I’m excited to see where my honesty will take me. Because here’s the real deal: I didn’t do anything wrong.

The INTP said he wanted to take things slow, we aren’t official or exclusive, and he wants to slut in Asia. Well, I met someone the ESFJ who is interested in me, and I was single, so we went on a date and fucked. This is dating, right? And now, I’m being completely honest again, possibly to my detriment, but I’ll reveal these things and see what his wishes are. I’ve known him longer so we have stronger rapport, history, and connection. I value what he wants and thinks.

And I plan to tell both of them where I’m at in my next hangouts with them. That’s already pretty honest. Even though I didn’t tell them right now, right away, I think it’s a matter of “wisdom” and “place and time” to be sharing this, right?

Either way, if it’s too late to tell them, I can apologize too, but this is an application of judgment, and it’s not unreasonably delaying anything.

Dating should be fun and exciting! Once it stops being enjoyable, we can always fully opt out. That’s the rules of the game.