Things aren’t improving, we should just break up

My Secret Notebook
1 min readApr 8, 2024

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Ray and I just had another “argument” over message and then we talked on the phone for 28 min after a 15 min calm down time.

It’s all the same stuff again, he wants to tolerate “small things” and I think we can’t talk about things, big or small. These things are big to me. It’s literally, the reason I don’t think we should be together.

I’m not able to get the communication I think we need (just needs to be calm and informative, but he will keep building on the frustration and not be understanding what I’m saying). And he is not happy about the communication I initiate. It’s the same thing all over again.

Things have not improved, and we still can’t talk about things.

Honestly, I think we should just break up. Let’s not fucking drag this out anymore. We have different timelines and hopes for the future, different perspectives about life/relationships, and different personalities. I don’t even believe we can live together peacefully or parent together. So where does that leave us?

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My Secret Notebook

Quirky, curious, and philosophical Asian American gay Ivy League grad living in Southern California.